About two weeks ago Trish said she would take me out to dinner for my birthday. I accepted the invitation and we agreed to finalize plans this week. Cindi also asked me to go out to dinner for my birthday when we were at the opera on Friday night. I told Cindi about Trish’s invitation and suggested all three of go out to dinner since Trish and Cindi know each other. On Monday night Trish called to firm up the dinner plans. I told Trish about Cindi’s invitation and suggested all three of us meet for dinner. There was silence on the other end. Finally, Trish suggested we have dinner some other time because she only wanted to talk to me and not share dinner with Cindi. I was dumbfounded. I told Trish I’d try to postpone dinner with Cindi and would call her back after I talked to Cindi. Cindi agreed to postpone dinner but thought Trish was being a complete bitch.
I feel like my birthday was hijacked by Trish. Why give a birthday dinner gift with strings attached? Trish and Cindi are social acquaintances and may not be considered good friends but I don’t understand why Trish didn’t want to make it more of a party. I feel like Trish was being juvenile and selfish.
Last night I had dinner with Trish to celebrate my 55th birthday. We had a nice dinner. I made sure to guide the conversation away from her later husband, her ex-boyfriend and the other man she meet in grief therapy. It would have been a whole lot more fun with Cindi there.
What do you think of Trish not wanting to include Cindi?
The Corporate Slave 
Did Trish share any big personal secrets during the dinner? If not, she was just manipulating the situation to suit her needs, in my opinion. Relationships with women are complicated sometimes but I think if you want to know why she didn’t want to include Cindi, you should ask her point blank. Maybe she just didn’t want to share you? That’s still selfish though and you have a right to be annoyed with her. She seems kind of high maintenance…
Trish didn’t reveal any secrets during dinner. I think she was selfish even though she paid for dinner.