My sister-in-law is a very kind and loving woman. She works in the elder care industry. My sil has been instrumental in making sure my mother gets the best care. She’s attended the care meeting and worked with the staff and doctors. My mother, with her passive-aggressive behavior, and always a victim attitude, has managed to alienate my sil. My mother complains about everything. Nothing makes her happy. My sil is beyond frustrated and is about give up and let my parents fend for themselves. I don’t blame her.
I tried talking to my mother on the phone this weekend. She kept telling me to talk louder because she would not use her hearing aids. I spoke louder. She got mad because she said I was yelling at her. I hung up on her.
My mother is a very difficult and angry woman. She recently told my father that she has only made one big mistake in life; marring him. How cruel is that? My father visits her every day and does her laundry with special laundry detergent so her skin doesn’t get irritated. One would think that a woman, who is dependent upon others for her care, would be a little kinder. Not my mother.
I don’t know why a woman, who is so unhappy, would want to continue living. I don’t ever remember my mother being happy. She’s miserable and making everyone around her unhappy. Sometimes I wish she would just die.