I flew back to Denver last night. I’m relieved it’s over. About fifteen people attend my mother’s viewing. Most had not met my mother as they were friends of my brother’s family. One aunt, one cousin and his wife came to the viewing. The rest of the family stayed away. My sil’s best friend came to the funeral mass. She was the only person who attended the service outside of immediate family. My mother had no friends and she alienated most of the family. How sad is that?
My mother is my role model for how not to live my life. Everyone has ups and downs while facing the challenges of life. Life has to be enjoyed. Cherish the good times and learn from the bad times. My friends have been so supportive. I treasure every one of them.
I not sad my mother died. I’m glad she’s dead. I’m sad because my mother had a long torturous life and could not find happiness or cultivate friendships. I only hope she’s at peace.
The Corporate Slave 
eh, she is probably still miserable wherever she is. you are correct though – learn from her mistakes.
did your sister show up? how is your dad doing? what will he do now?
My sister showed up. I avoided her and limited my interactions with her. My dad is relieved. He’s good. He started purging the house of my mother’s things. It’s a new chapter for him.
purging is a good way to clear out and get a fresh start. good for him!
You have not only learned from her but practice what you have learned. Enjoy life, it’s only as good as you make it. Be there for your dad, he lived her but sounds as if he is moving on. Supporting him in his next chapter will only bring you great reward.
Loved, not lived…proof read Fearsome, proof read!
Sigh. Families are so complicated. Find peace.