I met Paddy at Pridefest in June. He tends to the locks of my friend, Sue. He wanted to go to Pridefest but didn’t know anyone going. Sue brought him along to introduce Paddy to the gang. Paddy didn’t have any gay male friends and lived out in Highlands Ranch, a master planned community south of Denver. Paddy hooks up with a lot of guys, mostly one night stands, but hasn’t bothered to try to form a male peer group after moving back to Denver from San Francisco.
Paddy didn’t have the best of upbringings. He was out on his own at a young age. Paddy ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship with man in his fifties when he was twenty-one. Somewhere along the way, Paddy went to hair styling school. Paddy landed in San Francisco after the relationship ended. He got a job in a top salon and built a large clientele. Paddy longed to return to Denver so he rented a chair in a Cherry Creek salon and commuted between the two cities. Paddy spent a few years commuting between Denver and San Francisco with apartments in each city. He slowly built up a clientele in Denver while reducing his client base in San Francisco. Eventually, he was able to move back to Denver.
Paddy pulls in 20k a month doing hair while employing two assistants. Not bad for guy who didn’t go to college. Not bad for a guy who is thirty-seven. If anything, Paddy knows how to make money. He also spends money like he has it.
While Paddy mastered the art of making money as a hair stylist, his personal life is a bit of a mess. Paddy’s last live-in boyfriend hired a lawyer and took him to the cleaners. Paddy made a large cash payment to get rid of the guy. Paddy always picks up the check on dates. Paddy likes to be in control. It’s not very often that there is a second date. It’s not unusual for Paddy to have five dates in a week. I find it odd that a man Paddy’s age only has gay acquaintances (ex-tricks) and not any gay male friends. Paddy’s friends are mostly female hair stylists.
Mack, Double A and I have been spending time with Paddy in an effort to build friendships and introduce him to people. He’s fun to hang out with as cocktails are usually involved. I think Paddy has the potential to be a good friend.