Mack has alienated himself with our circle of friends. Last Friday, Mack wanted to join the art tour. He called me from McDonald’s where he was using the free wifi. I told him the group was having an early dinner at a restaurant that could be a bit pricey.
After dinner, Mack threw three dollars down on the table. It was all the money he had. The rest of us paid for his tab. Clearly, he didn’t take the hint that he was expected to pay for his dinner. I’m guessing I should have been more direct.
All of us have been paying for his dinners for over a year. Mack has done nothing to find a second part-time job even though many establishments are hiring near his apartment. Mack doesn’t want to work at a grocery store, restaurant or Home Depot. He wants to work somewhere fun. The part-time fun job at Crate & Barrel is not paying the bills.
I thought Mack should have said something about his lack of funds before ordering dinner. If all he had was three dollars, he should have taken advantage of the dollar menu at McDonald’s. That may sound harsh, but at times, I can be a dick.
Part of me feels guilty for thinking this way. I have a good income. The others have good incomes too. All can afford to pay for his dinner (Paddy dropped two grand for painting at Mai Wyn’s that night). All have worked hard to achieve success in their careers. None of the group was handed a career or have an inheritance to rely upon. None of us really have fun jobs, but rather, have positions which provide income to live a nice life.
The problem is Mack has done nothing to mitigate his financial situation. He seems to expect that someone will pick up the tab. It feels like Mack is taking advantage of our kindness. He has borrowed money from most of the group. I believe the group has been enabling him. It has to stop.
The group decided Mack will not be invited to dinner. He’ll have to meet up with the group after dinner for the art tour. Mack may have to take public transportation or ride his bike.
Am I being a dick? Should I just suck it up and continue to pay for his meals? What do you think?