I was messaged online by another man because of my HIV status. At fifty-six, he found out he was HIV+ two months ago. He had no one to talk to as nobody in his world knows he has sex with men. The man is divorced with five adult children. He works in construction doing small jobs. He doesn’t make a lot of money and doesn’t own a computer. Thankfully, he qualifies for Medicaid. He is taking medication and is undetectable.
After his divorce, he started going to arcades to be orally pleasured by men which eventually led to barebacking. He told me he didn’t think he would catch anything because he never got anything from a woman. Clearly, that wasn’t sound reasoning.
I’ve talked to the man two times. I’ve explained HIV status, PREP, medications, integrase inhibitors, opportunistic infections and safe sex practices. Essentially, it was HIV 101.
He was a second man to contact me in recent history who became HIV+ because he had unprotected sex with men after divorcing his wife. How sad is that?